My cousin thinks that there is cancer causing ingredients t in pringles chips. True or false?

Well than many people will have cancer soon cuz Pringles ROCK… I even ate some today.

Living causes cancer.

false… seems like everything causes cancer these days.

False…that's crazy.

I've heard today that there is a good chance I have cervical cancer and I can't get my head round it. I already knew there was something wrong so I went for the test and sure enough…..

I'm in my final year at university, it looks like my mum has dementia and I'm scared stiff about that, and finances are such that we need me to work full time.

I've told my 17 year old son to find somewhere else to live tonight too. He's been driving me mad for years and I've just had enough.

My other children are fantastic. It's my daughter's 21st birthday on Monday and she saw the letter today and went to pieces. My fiance has gone to pieces too and so have I. My head's all over the place. I had years and years of being completely miserable in my first marriage and am ridiculously happy now with my new man and I can't help thinking I've gone through all that in the past only for it all to be taken away from me. I know I'm probably over-reacting but I just can't believe my luck.

Can someone who's gone through this please give me some words of encouragement?

Yeah, it's a real kick in the groin. To this day, almost a full year after my diagnosis, I'm still thinking the universe picked the wrong person. Or maybe just the wrong time. However, it's never the right time, and you are never the right person, and when you get right down to it, well, it sucks and it is. That's all. It just is.

For me it was shock, then anger, then serious depression (about 2-3 weeks), and then a semblance of acceptance. The anger continued a while. You go through all sorts of emotions. Just ride them out. Don't self-censor. Smile when others tell you to "stay positive" but feel whatever it is you're feeling. That's far more important than trying to artificially maintain some sort of rosy attitude when you're gotten the worst news of your life.

Accept the kindnesses of strangers and of friends and family. Don't spend too much time on the Internet looking at statistics. Statistics are all about a few unlucky people and a lot of lucky ones. You've gotten unlucky, but that has nothing to do with your future. Follow your treatment plans, don't get creative and take all sorts of supplements as they may interfere with treatments, and just focus on getting through it.

Good luck.

im not trying to scare you but you need to face up to what may happen but i hope they caught your cancer early so you will live because my mother had cervical cancer when i was 18 she was 41 her cancer was far gone it spread she died so i hope you found out in time so they can remove your cancer with surgery sorry to tell you that but maybe you can get something done about yours

It sounds like you have a lot of good people around you to help you focus on your treatment. Seek out information, would with a doctor you trust to establish a game plan. Otherwise the different treatments from different experts can get confusing.

Some good books to read; 'It is not about the bike' Lance Armstrong has a great outlook on life and how he got through his cancer. 'anatomy of hope' Dr. Groopman walks you though how emotions are helpful to the person facing medical challenges.

Find a support group or chat room of other c. cancer surviviors. it is great to hear from people with similar fealings and emotions. All the best to you…

I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I have never been affected by it but everyone I know who's had cervical cancer has survived it. The best thing you can do be positive and not stress out. I just had a tumour removed from my ovary (they had to remove it to know whether it was cancerous or not, I was lucky, it was benign!). While I was waiting for the surgery my doctor just kept telling me to be positive and not to stress out as stress depletes your immune system and you need to be strong.

You are lucky to have a lot of people around you for support. My prayers are with you!

This is easy to say, but "Don't sweat it"! Of COURSE your head's messed up, but don't make any decisions about anything for a few weeks. Cancer sucks, but it isn't the end of the world, the good news is that now your doctor(s) will know, and will take appropriate action. Cervical cancer is very treatable.

Learn everything you can about the disease (see link) and ignore anything that involves the word "testimonial". Go with your doctor's recommended treatment and you'll be okay… you may not be "just fine" for a couple months, but you will be okay…

I found out I had thyroid cancer a week after my first son was born. We have been fighting it for 2 years now - I go in for my third surgery next month. They just can't seem to get it all.

It's very scary - that's normal, and if you weren't scared, it would be weird.
The good thing is that you have a type of cancer that's treatable, and with surgery and other types of treatment you can one day be back to normal - or mostly normal.
You won't know exactly what to expect until the doctors tell you where it is, how much there is, how extensive the treatments need to be. So for right now, all you can do is prepare for surgery, etc.
I would suggest that you go borrow a book from the library, or buy it - it's calle "tuesdays with Morie" - it's about a man dying, but I don't want you to get it because you might be dying. Chances are you will live a long wonderful life.
I want you to read it because there are several things in there that have really helped me through this illness. One of them is he says he gives himself 10 minutes every morning alone to greive - to feel sorry for himself and the suffering he is going through. He cries, he yells, he spits, whatever - then when the timer goes off, he is done and he gets on with his day - he puts it to the back of his mind when it comes up again and then uses all those "back of the mind" thoughts the next morning. That way it doesn't consume him, but he acknowleges his sorrow too.

Please know that you are strong, you have a wonderful family and a loving significant other to help you along through all this. You can do anything - you just have to try.

This "why me" part of the grieving process will pass, soon you will be mad at God, or angry with the world, or angry with yourself for the way you have lived - something. There are lots of stages to go through, and you will in your own time.

Talk to your doctors, become active in your healthcare, do research, don't take no for an answer from insurance companies, and above all, try to enjoy every moment you have with your kids - even the one who drives you crazy.
I am actually to the point that even though I want to get it over with already, I can recongize the things that cancer has taught me and use those things now.
You might not believe it, but you will get there too.

Good luck - my thoughts are with you.

Doctors promote a once-in-awhile checkup for cancer, so that if an early growth of cancer is discovered, the patient can have it removed.

Is this always the case? Or does it depend on the type of cancer?

Generally speaking if cancer is found early on a screening exam there is a sure success in removing it, but it also depends on the cancer and we only have screening exams for a few types. There are hundreds of different cancers, they are all unique and one type cannot be compared with another.

Since we began using pap smears as a screening exam the mortality rate of cervical cancer has declined by 50%. Most of these cancers are successfully removed when found early and most are found before they become invasive. However, if it is found when it is invasive, but still early in the disease at stage 1 the 5 year survival rate is 80%, so it is not a sure success, but it is pretty good.

Most of the time with breast cancer there is a sure success in removing it when found early, but the problem can be finding it early. Mammograms have an 85% accuracy rate and are able to detect breast cancer before it is palpable about 45% of the time. There is no doubt they save lives, but they are not foolproof or as accurate as we would like. Some of the success also depends on the age of the patient as the younger the patient the more aggressive the disease. Inflammatory breast cancer only occurs in 1% of all breast cancer cases and is the most dangerous. The diagnosis alone makes it a stage IIIB and therefore cannot be caught early.

Prostate cancer can usually be caught early; the problem is often with removing it. Prostate cancer tends to be multifocal requiring the entire prostate to be removed. This cancer is also typically slow growing and it is not unusual to see patients with the disease for more than 15 years even without treatment. A large number of these patients die from other causes often with little or no symptoms from the prostate cancer. Since most men are diagnosed later in life and we have ways to manage the disease many men elect not to have the prostate removed.

Our biggest success is with colon cancer. No one should ever die from colon cancer. These cancers also tend to be slow growing, although not as slow as prostate cancer. When caught early there is little to worry about, but when caught late it is deadly. These cancers almost always develop in a polyp, which can be seen and removed with colonoscopy. It is the only cancer that can be cured during a screening exam. The 5-year survival rate when caught early (stage 0 and stage 1) is 90-100%, compared to stage IV with a 5-year survival rate of only 5%.

These are the only cancers we have screening exams for. Success rates for other cancers when they are caught early largely depend on the type of cancer, the location of the tumor and if it is resectable or not.

Its nearly always the case with the exception of cancers that develop in a place where an operation is too risky - such as many types of brain cancer.

colon, cervical cancers are best treated with indicated early.

If a doctor finds a suspicious mole on you at a check up and has immediate surgery to remove it, what is the chance that this is cancer?

Please help. thank you so much.

The chances of it being cancer are actually pretty low. A suspicious mole is any mole that is irregularly shaped, more than one color, or larger than a pencil eraser, and all of these call for immediate removal. However, the chance that it is cancerous is still below 5 percent.

to see her ,the bereavement officer asked me if i wanted to see her i said yes, then she came back and said, i couldnt see her she was having an autopsy done, so i went back the next day, it then came to my attention that i could have seen my mum because she wasnt having an autopsy done, untill the following morning. i have spoken to the bereavement officer and she has said that she had made it up because my mum still had tubes coming out of her when i arrived. has she got the right to make this decision for me, i wouldnt have wanted to see my mum like that, but that would surely have been my choice. she has allso told me that she made it up and thought that she was doing the right thing, please tell me what you think, thanks

I'm so very sorry about your loss of you very loved one. I know the pain that you are going through right this minute. The bereavement officer should have given you the choice if you wanted to see your mom that way or not. It was all up to you not her. I would've been mad. But I guess she was trying to protect you. But all I can say time will heal the pain. It's been a year since I lost my father due to a heart attack, talk to someone that you know that will listen to you. You'll be mad for a while…just think of it that you have another angel looking over you.>>hugs<<

I am so sorry your mum has died, it's one of the worst things that happens to us in our lives. In my opinion the bereavement officer should have told you exactly what the situation was and advised you to return the next day, and then the decision should have been yours alone, she had no right to make anything up and in fact the lie she told you must have been as upsetting as the truth would have been. I'm glad that you were able to see your mum once more, I'm sure she was watching over you.

I am sorry for your loss, but if you think about it, all the officer did was the same thing YOU would probably have done (assuming you are kind of heart) to a bereaved daughter if you were in their position.

It was actually the sign of a bereavement officer who actually cares, they see so many dead people every day that sometimes it gets hard to remember they were "real people" before they passed…

Again, I am sorry for your loss.

Hang in there…

You're grieving and questioning everything. I should know, I lost my mom to cancer only 7 months ago and I went to see her immediately after. I can understand what you're going through and I think she was just trying to ease your grieving, a lot of people are going to be doing that now. I'm sorry for your loss, no one should have to go through this but I found a website that may help. www.dailystrenth.com they have a support group called Motherless Daughters for women who've loss their mothers. Good luck.

First off I'am sooo sorry for your loss. What he did was not right he should have told you the condition she was in and that he felt its best for you to wait till the next day he should not have lied to you tho. But Id just let it go he did it to protect you wich is nice but it's still not his right either way it goes.

She did the right thing - don't doubt her for it. She was being kind and protecting you from something she thought it best for you not to see. I lost my mum too a few months ago so I know how hard it is. That lady also probably already lost her mum and was just protecting you that's all.

Really sorry for your loss, she was just trying to protect you she prob didn't want your last memory of your mam to be seeing her like that. but if its upsetting you this much you should talk to an adult close to you.

Tell her you think what she did was total unacceptable and demand to talk to her boss. I'm sorry for your loss and seeing your mum may just have been the closure you needed.

I think the bereavment officer was only considering your feelings after you have just lost your mother. I think she acted in good faith

Talk to someone you care about and can trust

I am sorry for your loss. My father died of cancer 4 years ago, we were with him when he died and sat with the body for almost an hour afterwards. Eventually a doctor asked us to come away from the room and sort out some papers for the death certificate. I was expecting my father to still be there when we returned but he had been taken to the morgue and we were unable to see him until he was at the chapel of rest 2 days later. The undertakes told us that this was their tactful way of not allowing us to see some of the changes that happen to a body after death. I think you will just have to accept that the bereavement office meant well and tried to protect you from having lasting images of your mother that were less than beautiful. I have had to work hard to remove the mental picture of my father dead and replace it with a laughing living image, but in saying that I wouldn't have given up spending his last moments on earth with him for anything.

I am guessing that you are quite young still, please believe that people around you are acting in your best interests, they may make mistakes now and again but try to forgive them as their intentions will be good. People tell all kinds of little white lies to ease our way through life, there is malice intended.

She was trying to spare you some pain - the problem was she should have just said "it's not a good time right now" - the cleaning up process is gory and you wouldn't have wanted to see her like that. It's really better to wait and see them at the funeral home when they are dressed and looking a little more like themselves, then on a cold hard table under wierd lighting with just a sheet.
Be thankful she didn't let you see, and maybe write a note to her that she shouldn't lie - she should have said "I don't think you want to see her right now, let's come back tomorrow." If you think writting a note will help you feel better.

Sometimes when someone has died, the last moments while we had their body with us become so precious that we feel robbed when someone or something prevents us from having every possible one.

However, you must not become consumed by this. You must let it go. Whether the officer did the right thing (I don't think she did) or not is something you cannot change, and it is not something you can hold her accountable for, so you need to focus on the time you did have to spend with your mum in the mortuary and not on the time you didn't.

When my dad died, we visited in the mortuary and then didn't see him again. We decided not to go again, as we were trying to console my mother and get the funeral arranged. I always regretted not making a second visit, to say another goodbye and it ate me up for years. Instead of focusing in on his actual death, and the memories I have, I focused on this one regret that I cannot change.

You have been robbed of your mother, and so you are grieving but try not to let this one event consume all the rest of your experience. Anger and resentment will only eat you - focus on the positives, you have to.

My biopsy results were always interpreted by a pathologist, usually one with specific training depending on the system and/or disease (a gastrointestinal pathologist interpreted slides of my esophagus and stomach).

"Evied" is correct.
It is the pathologist we depend upon to make the diagnosis of malignancy.
I would often review the slides with the pathologist, but they had the last word. Reading microscopic samples is what they do - it is the main thing they do. They are the experts. Then we have to design a treatment approach based on their findings.

A ____pathologist.

Its depends on what their specialty is or they could be just general.

You can choose who you want to look at it..talk to your doctor.

When I have moles examined, I make sure my doctor sends them to a dermapathologist vs a general pathologist looking for signs of cancer.

A Pathologist - I think

I have been a Psych nurse for 30 yrs and worked with the elderly and took a huge part of their care plan. It's not that they are old. Some of these people that are in their 80s and 90s did not consume a lot of chemicals when they were young because most of them grew their own food. Canned their own food, and chemicals 90 yrs ago were not as big a problem as it is today. They never saw the need to see a doctor unless they were very ill and had no choice. so for some of them, the cancer could have been there for years, then went dormant only resurface again. Remember, when someone has cancer, no matter what age, we never feel the first signs of cancer until if manifest itself in one form or another. Granted, with the elderly, they have a weakened immune system, but to be honest with you, I have seen more cancer in the young that the elderly. for example. I was diagnosed with breast cancer 2 yrs and that same year, 5 other members of my family were diagnosed as well with breast cancer, 2 of them were my nieces. My younger sister developed ovarian cancer, brain tumors, stomach cancer only to mention a few. My sister in-law died at 42 from breast cancer. Cancer knows no age limit. When it has the opportunity to attack, it will. From babies to the elderly. The elderly have more of a tendency to get pneumonia, flu etc because they are weak, but in 30 yrs, I did not see any more cancer in the elderly than I did in the young, In fact, I have seen more in the younger people. My brother died of brain and spinal cancer at 50, My nephew died last year at the age of 49 from lung cancer. See, cancer doesn't respect anyone, Hope that's not to confusing. Sometimes I really get off the track to make a point so forgive me if I ratteled on to much.

Your body is constantly regenerating. Each time a new cell is created there is a chance of a defect. Obviously the older you are, the more chances that has to offer. Often cancer can be aggravated by external sources. Although these sources are disputed, the older you are, the longer you have been exposed to them.

They have been affected by more chemicals than all of us throughout their entire life. Their bodies break down easier as they get older. The body simply begins to age and with that comes sickness and disease. There are no great wonders or secrets we do not about, this is life. How is it that the human body is able to cure a single cell, when one dies, a new one is formed. Mankind and doctors have been baffled by this question for centuries. Our genetics play a role in it as well. Age is the biggest factor and the immune system. It is not fair, why to older people get cancer more easily, well if we put all this in a nut shell we might have most of the question. But then ask your self this, why are there more yonger children dying form cancer than ever before ? The environment, what we have been exposed to because of big business , greed. the high demand for wood and fuel , today our children are suffering and will suffer the effects of a nightmare that is coming upon us.

It's what you put into your body, over time that becomes a good or a bad thing. When you are young, you do not typically think about health & you've gained habits for the rest of your life, which could be good or bad for you.

If you digestive track isn't working properly, or having to work too hard to digest dead foods (meats & processed foods, most anything white): then you body has been over worked & under paid & you will end up with cancer in your organs, or in your bones.

What most people do not know is that you body needs to eat live enzymes, which promotes healthy living habits for the rest of your life: if you know these things. What is live enzymes? Fruits & vegetables, however you ought not to mix the two together in one sitting. It is preferable to eat one thing per sitting @ breakfast, or lunch, or dinner. Or to know what two things go together. While your body tries to digest one thing, it ends up with something else to digest & goes from one extreme, to another trying to digest all the food that enters your body. It is also better for your body if you drink liquids after you meal, as it makes it harder on your digestive system: if you chase your foods down with a drink: then your body has to work harder to process the foods, through your body, etc…….

It's not your family jeans that get you into bad health, it isn't who you are who gets you into trouble as much as the eating habits that you have acquired from your family & when you get older & set in your ways, it is harder to change your ways.

Doctors are practitioners & you are their Guinea pig. They have no preventive healthy methods of protecting you from old age, etc…….!! They (most) of them can't tell you how to keep your organs healthy, because Health classes aren't required, or @ least very little.

They wait until your organs go bad, then they tell you they have to cut it out: That is their answer, because they've not given the patient any preventive measures in regards to health & then removing the organ becomes the only answer. I knew of one lady, of whom the doctors have cut most every organ in her body out & the doctors told her, if we cut one more organ out: you will die.

UR organs are in your body for a purpose & some people do not realize this until it is too late & by then, it is to late to change their habits to healthy ones.

Although, we all die @ some point: You can prevent bad health & prolong your life & this way see less doctors. The doctor told my husband that he was the healthiest person that they had seen.

I'm neither elderly nor old and I got a brain tumor. Everyone has cells that can potentially turn cancerous. I guess the longer you live, the more chance you have of something going awry with your cell division. The people that I do know of getting cancer, are not elderly.

because there immune system arent up to speed thier defenses are weak and low and its just nature it also has to do with thier cells because as you know cancer is actually your own cells so when your own cells are weak there becomes the problem

Many factors but 2 that stand out are lower immune systems and years of not taking care of themselves(eating right/vitamins/not exercising/smoking/over eating).

usually older people especially unhealthy ones are more accessible to getting also any disease

The longer you live the more likely you are to develop abnormal cell growths in your body.

Well i had a little accident and i cut one of my moles, it bled for hours it was constantly bleeding, and ive heard that moles are cancerous o something? or if you cut yourself and it constantly bleeds and doesnt stop, you can get lukemia.? but i heard that on scrubs the other night so i dont know if that is true but my arm is now really really hurting and in stinging painn and parts of my arm are numb.

It could have been cancerous, if there is a large or misshapen mole then you should have your doctor look at it and decide if it should be removed. They will test it to see if it is cancer or not.

As for bleeding, no you can't get cancer from bleeding. You must have misunderstood what they said. However, you could have gotten an infection. If it keeps hurting, or becomes inflamed, or you see lines coming from it then definitely go see your doctor.

Once again, Spreedog is correct! You can not get leukemia like that. It is a collection of environment factors and things just plain adding up on a person. I have leukemia. CML. Go to the doctor and get the mole checked out. And stop worrying like that, it is not good for you. Just take good care.

You cannot acquire or "get" leukemia from what you describe. Sounds like you should see your regular physician about this arm pain and numbness.

Theres a spot on my skin, that has just appeared 2 months ago. It has none of the properties or Melanoma.
It is not asymetric.
The border is even and well defined.
The color is consitant.
The dianeter is only 4-5mm.
It has never changed in anyway since it poped up (2 months ago).
It does not bleed or itch.

Its like a normal mole, except its kind of like a line, not a circle.

Do you think i should be worried?

Did you have a scrape in this area and now this is the remaining scar that is healing? It could be just a skin abnormality such as a nevi, etc. A linear cancer would be unusual. Next time you have a visit with your doctor, have him/her looke at it and give you an answer.

I would have a doctor look at it, just in case.

I've heard today that there is a good chance I have cervical cancer and I can't get my head round it. I already knew there was something wrong so I went for the test and sure enough…..

I'm in my final year at university, it looks like my mum has dementia and I'm scared stiff about that, and finances are such that we need me to work full time.

I've told my 17 year old son to find somewhere else to live tonight too. He's been driving me mad for years and I've just had enough.

My other children are fantastic. It's my daughter's 21st birthday on Monday and she saw the letter today and went to pieces. My fiance has gone to pieces too and so have I. My head's all over the place. I had years and years of being completely miserable in my first marriage and am ridiculously happy now with my new man and I can't help thinking I've gone through all that in the past only for it all to be taken away from me. I know I'm probably over-reacting but I just can't believe my luck.

Can someone who's gone through this please give me some words of encouragement?

Yeah, it's a real kick in the groin. To this day, almost a full year after my diagnosis, I'm still thinking the universe picked the wrong person. Or maybe just the wrong time. However, it's never the right time, and you are never the right person, and when you get right down to it, well, it sucks and it is. That's all. It just is.

For me it was shock, then anger, then serious depression (about 2-3 weeks), and then a semblance of acceptance. The anger continued a while. You go through all sorts of emotions. Just ride them out. Don't self-censor. Smile when others tell you to "stay positive" but feel whatever it is you're feeling. That's far more important than trying to artificially maintain some sort of rosy attitude when you're gotten the worst news of your life.

Accept the kindnesses of strangers and of friends and family. Don't spend too much time on the Internet looking at statistics. Statistics are all about a few unlucky people and a lot of lucky ones. You've gotten unlucky, but that has nothing to do with your future. Follow your treatment plans, don't get creative and take all sorts of supplements as they may interfere with treatments, and just focus on getting through it.

Good luck.

im not trying to scare you but you need to face up to what may happen but i hope they caught your cancer early so you will live because my mother had cervical cancer when i was 18 she was 41 her cancer was far gone it spread she died so i hope you found out in time so they can remove your cancer with surgery sorry to tell you that but maybe you can get something done about yours

It sounds like you have a lot of good people around you to help you focus on your treatment. Seek out information, would with a doctor you trust to establish a game plan. Otherwise the different treatments from different experts can get confusing.

Some good books to read; 'It is not about the bike' Lance Armstrong has a great outlook on life and how he got through his cancer. 'anatomy of hope' Dr. Groopman walks you though how emotions are helpful to the person facing medical challenges.

Find a support group or chat room of other c. cancer surviviors. it is great to hear from people with similar fealings and emotions. All the best to you…

I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I have never been affected by it but everyone I know who's had cervical cancer has survived it. The best thing you can do be positive and not stress out. I just had a tumour removed from my ovary (they had to remove it to know whether it was cancerous or not, I was lucky, it was benign!). While I was waiting for the surgery my doctor just kept telling me to be positive and not to stress out as stress depletes your immune system and you need to be strong.

You are lucky to have a lot of people around you for support. My prayers are with you!

This is easy to say, but "Don't sweat it"! Of COURSE your head's messed up, but don't make any decisions about anything for a few weeks. Cancer sucks, but it isn't the end of the world, the good news is that now your doctor(s) will know, and will take appropriate action. Cervical cancer is very treatable.

Learn everything you can about the disease (see link) and ignore anything that involves the word "testimonial". Go with your doctor's recommended treatment and you'll be okay… you may not be "just fine" for a couple months, but you will be okay…

I found out I had thyroid cancer a week after my first son was born. We have been fighting it for 2 years now - I go in for my third surgery next month. They just can't seem to get it all.

It's very scary - that's normal, and if you weren't scared, it would be weird.
The good thing is that you have a type of cancer that's treatable, and with surgery and other types of treatment you can one day be back to normal - or mostly normal.
You won't know exactly what to expect until the doctors tell you where it is, how much there is, how extensive the treatments need to be. So for right now, all you can do is prepare for surgery, etc.
I would suggest that you go borrow a book from the library, or buy it - it's calle "tuesdays with Morie" - it's about a man dying, but I don't want you to get it because you might be dying. Chances are you will live a long wonderful life.
I want you to read it because there are several things in there that have really helped me through this illness. One of them is he says he gives himself 10 minutes every morning alone to greive - to feel sorry for himself and the suffering he is going through. He cries, he yells, he spits, whatever - then when the timer goes off, he is done and he gets on with his day - he puts it to the back of his mind when it comes up again and then uses all those "back of the mind" thoughts the next morning. That way it doesn't consume him, but he acknowleges his sorrow too.

Please know that you are strong, you have a wonderful family and a loving significant other to help you along through all this. You can do anything - you just have to try.

This "why me" part of the grieving process will pass, soon you will be mad at God, or angry with the world, or angry with yourself for the way you have lived - something. There are lots of stages to go through, and you will in your own time.

Talk to your doctors, become active in your healthcare, do research, don't take no for an answer from insurance companies, and above all, try to enjoy every moment you have with your kids - even the one who drives you crazy.
I am actually to the point that even though I want to get it over with already, I can recongize the things that cancer has taught me and use those things now.
You might not believe it, but you will get there too.

Good luck - my thoughts are with you.